Understanding Men: 3 Ways To Stop Your Man From Ignoring What You Say
When it comes to understanding men, it seems as if women struggle with the idea that men can be deaf when they choose to be. I know, ladies because my wife accuses me of this all the time, and for good reason. I tend to just zone out at certain times. That, or I try to listen but she literally sounds like she’s speaking a different language to me sometimes. We have gotten better over the years, but I’m still improving every day.
Here are three ways that my wife has made me stop ignoring her and to make me take action immediately.
1. Repeat After Me
This is probably the oldest trick in the book but for some reason or another, we never used it until one of Elle’s girlfriends told her about it. Basically, all I have to do is repeat back to Ella what she told me. Easy? Not initially.
It actually showed me how much I was ignoring her or pretending to hear what she was saying. I mean, I knew that I was doing it but I became so accustomed to it that I didn’t realize that I was doing it so often. Now, I always repeat back to her what she says (when she asks me to).
2. “This Is Important”
This is something else that catches my attention. By telling me this is important and making me look her in the eyes, I have no choice but to pay attention to her. By looking into her eyes, I can also tell that it’s important to her because there is something in there that tells me it’s important.
This is usually accompanied by a “look at me,” so that I do look at her. Again, something simple but not enough women do it. Maybe they find it too intense. My wife does it and she isn’t afraid to do it if it’s really important to her.
This is another very basic trick that works. I know it does seem sort of condescending to men, but I do like being acknowledged. My wife has tried to also do the opposite of rewards and take away something instead, but that just annoys me.
Rewards at least show that she knows what I want and for me is a bigger incentive. I also get used to doing it without the reward. I find that it makes it fun and makes me pay attention better by telling me I’ll get a reward.
If you want to get better at understanding men and making sure that they listen to every word you say, realize that we are simply dumb. We need to be told many times, we should be told to repeat back to you what you say and we need to be told that whatever the thing is, it’s important. Rewards wouldn’t hurt, either.