How to Deal With Stress in a Relationship?
Stress is an inevitable part of our lives and we are, in a sense, forced to go with it. Stress occurs everywhere, whether you are at home or at work or even at social meetings. Since stress can not be avoided it is better to know how to deal with it. The bad news, even more, is that stress also occurs in relationships. This may be due to boredom, cheating, seeking-for-perfection, difference of opinion and so on, the list will go on. Here are some techniques that will help you to deal with stress in a relationship.
Identify the cause:
When you are into some trouble in the relationship which eventually bursts and causes stress, the think about the root cause of the issue, rather than thinking about the present. Go back a bit a do some analysis. See if anything is wrong on your side or if there is anything wrong with your partner. Most of the times, stress results due to an unidentified issue, so try to identify it.
Don’t let the stress build inside you, that could be fatal for your relationship. Rather, communicate and be open. If the you are the only victim of the stress and your partner is doing fine, you need to tell him/her about the problem you have. Be open. Do not hesitate since things are going well. Sometimes your partner may be strong or he/she is not showing up the emotion. So there is nothing wrong in communicating and ventilating the stress. Communication is also a great stress relief technique if both of you are under stress. In this case you can save your relationship just by being open and initiating a discussion. If you can not come to a conclusion or find a solution, then you can pause for a while before bringing it up again.
Commit yourself to do better. We always learn things and nobody is perfect. So commit yourself and develop positive thoughts about improvising. Learn from everyday happenings and find fixes for little issues then and there. Do not pile up emotions, that can be dangerous. If you are serious about the relationship, it is always better to improve yourself rather than finding a direction to point at.
Negative thoughts can destroy your relationship. So get rid of them right at the beginning. Negative thoughts also cause unwanted stress, because there is nothing wrong with your partner or in your relationship, but everything is in your head. You just build things up negatively and start to worry and get stressed about something that has not happened, or will never happen. Instead, even if something is wrong, get the positive thing out of it and learn from it. Tell to yourself that this went wrong so that you can learn a very important thing from it. The thing you have learned will help you build your relationship in a healthy manner.
Give some space:
It is always good to have some space. The fact that you are in a relationship doesn’t mean that you are tied up to something. Don’t also expect your partner to be tied up. Giving some space and being independent is a great solution to avoid stressful situations in a relationship. Take time to just go out independently with your friends or colleagues. Don’t be jealous. You can find great relief from stress if you feel the distance. But be also cautious to have just the right distance, if you are wanted in a serious relationship!
Don’t engage with a taker:
I should have written about this in the first place, but I hope that if I close the article with this tip then you will effectively remember it! Some persons always need more and it is your responsibility to identify such a person and to avoid engaging in a relationship with him/her. These people always take things out of a relationship and never give back anything. They drain you.
A relationship with such a person will certainly result in stressful days and nights. So think before things gain momentum.